Dating in the Modern World
Introduction
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Nowadays, we have options everywhere we go, so is the case with dating. Navigating through the options feels like being in a maze- blindfolded. One minute you’re sure that you don’t want anything complicated, next moment, boom- you’re in a ‘situationship.’
We live in times where handwritten letters are luxury and gifts could mean next to nothing. Ghosting, love bombing, breadcrumbing, etc. are some of the “trending terms” in dating these days, however, love and genuine connection seems to be outdated.
The Thumb Marathon
“Umm, I don’t like his hands in this picture.”
“She has a picture of her at a party, such a red flag.”
Sounds familiar?
Well, this is the reality of the modern dating world. Getting to know someone feels like a pain and passing judgement feels much easier. The apps have taken over and revolutionized how we meet potential partners. The thrill of meeting at a bookstore, coffee shop is now replaced by prompts and the ‘it’ pictures.
However, with tons of choices come challenges too. It is almost impossible to identify if the person is genuinely interested or being a catfish with an old picture? With so much doomswiping and bios, how can you avoid the ‘swipe fatigue?’
Did you know that around 4% of the worldwide population use dating apps. Almost 350 million people around the world use dating apps. While the apps offer convenience and accessibility, they come with their own sets of quirks.
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Decoding the digital language
While abbreviations are commonly used, the modern dating scenario has replaced actual conversations with emojis, gifs and memes. A simple “hey” can lead to multiple meanings- is it a friendly “heyy” or a cautious and formal “hello.”
There is another concept that can take a toss on people- which is ghosting. It is basically going silent or muting a person in real life. It can make a person wonder as to what they did wrong or how they end up in such a situation. It’s like that episode of black mirror- where you block people and they vanish from your life completely. It usually starts with breadcrumbing- when someone gives you enough attention to keep you hooked but not enough to commit to a person. This can leave a person with confusion and helplessness at that given point.
Modern dating is not about finding “the one” anymore, it’s about knowing what you want- it could range from serious relationships to casual fling and everything in between. When the clarity takes a backseat, it becomes a ‘situationship.’ In order to avoid hurting feelings, clear communication is a must about expectations and intentions.
The pressure to be perfect
Social media comes up with its own set of challenges and perks. You can easily look at your potential date’s profile and understand them a bit, but at the same time, you are constantly scanning for potential ‘red flags.’ This could also lead to generalization and forming a preconceived notion about a person.
Moreover, the picture perfect couples we see online lead us to overthink and create unrealistic standards of romance. The content may even leave us feeling inadequate or dissatisfied. This also makes us question the traditional gender roles. Most couples now pitch in equally for their needs and wants- from splitting bills to housing responsibilities. However, some might want to assume more traditional roles- the key here is communicating the needs and being on the same page.
Navigating the terrains of digital dating
The uncertainty of dating is ever present. The abundance of choices can be overwhelming and challenging, leaving you confused and fearful of rejections. However, despite the challenges, people continue to believe in love and seek it. How? It is simple- be true to yourself and the other person, ensure that you communicate about your expectations and intentions. Remember, it is okay to take things at your own pace. Don’t let social media or the fear of rejection dictate your decisions.
Some tips for you!
Be you: Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to impress someone. Be yourself!
Communicate: Not ready for something serious? Say it. Don’t find the person compatible? Express it. It is as simple as that.
Know your boundaries: Say no when needed and don’t let the other person cross your boundaries.
Be respectful: Treat them how you want your loved one to be treated. Be kind and considerate to your date.
Focus on yourself: In the hustle bustle of dating apps, don’t forget to prioritize the most important person in your life- you. Take a break from them, whenever needed.
Good things take time: Still haven’t found the one? Keep persisting and don’t get discouraged.
Conclusion
Dating today can be full of ups and downs, with unexpected twists and turns. But people thrive with human connections and we tend to find comfort in some, sooner or later. Meet new people, experience life and trust me, what’s meant for you will find you.
