A mother carries her unborn child for three trimesters, with the fourth beginning when the baby is born. With her womb now empty, she may face insecurities and fears as there is an immense emotional void left behind.

For centuries, society has often viewed women through a narrow lens, reducing their worth to their role as child-bearers. Even today, in many cultures, a mother is expected to be back on her feet and managing everything soon after giving birth, as though her physical and emotional challenges are secondary to her responsibilities. While the arrival of a baby is undoubtedly a joyous milestone, the evolving understanding of human needs and emotions highlights an important truth: not all mothers are ready to embrace their new role immediately after childbirth. 

Welcoming a new life into the world is a novel experience. There is love and there is transformation. For a mother, the postpartum period can swing either way. She needs to undergo physical recovery and deal with hormonal changes and emotional adjustments that come with it. She is creating space for this new individual to grow. She also has to adapt to her changed body, new identity, and evolving responsibilities.

The Emotional Landscape That Is Postpartum

Doctors believe that the postpartum period is far from smooth sailing. New mothers often cry behind closed doors in frustration. Don’t get me wrong, there are moments of pure joy in the mix too. Society acts as if mothers are not allowed to express anxiety, doubt, or sadness. We need to understand that physical changes and hormonal fluctuations along with psychological factors make a mother feel pressured to fit into the new role. 

Each mother I have spoken to has recounted the horrors of the first few days. The nights are sleepless for the mother, even if other family members are around to help. This and the demands of caring for a newborn take a toll on her. It is at this point that the mother's mental health needs attention. If she is inching towards depression, it percolates into the family and causes a lot of problems for others around. A nurturing environment is a prerequisite for the well-being of a newborn, and thus the mother needs to be in good health. Compassion goes a long way in this phase. Give her that backrub she needs and a warm hug.

Are All Postpartum Experiences Similar?

In short, no. A mother may experience hypertension and overthinking, or she may simply feel detached. How can we, as bystanders, identify what she’s going through? Start by understanding the major types of postpartum behavior. 

• Baby Blues are characterized by mood swings, with the new mother being irritable and tearful. Studies show that baby blues affect up to 80% of new mothers. The good news is that the symptoms are temporary and typically go away within two weeks.

• Postpartum Depression is severe and lasts longer. A mother suffering from this feels bouts of worthlessness and persistent sadness. She has difficulty bonding with the baby and even has thoughts of self-harm. Approximately 1 in 7 women experience PPD.

• Postpartum Anxiety and OCD make mothers overly anxious. They worry excessively about their baby’s well-being. They are marred by intrusive, unwanted, and unpleasant thoughts

Why Mental Wellness Matters Postpartum

Mothers cannot be expected to care for their newborns unless they are in the best mental shape. Much like any other ailment, postpartum afflictions can leave them scarred. Mothers who prioritize mental wellness are at a vantage point to manage the demands of parenthood and form stronger bonds with their babies. Their relationship with their partner or support system is also much better. 

Untreated mental health challenges can severely impact the child’s development, including affecting their emotional and cognitive growth. Get help if you fall prey to such a situation. Read that again- Get help!

Building a Foundation for Postpartum Peace

The postpartum period is a time to keep the mother’s physical and emotional well-being at its best. However, it often lacks the necessary support. As a new mother yourself or someone supporting a new mom, you can make this journey smoother and more fulfilling with these thoughtful tips.

Acknowledge Your Emotions

New mothers feel they must put on a brave face at all times. Responsibility does not take away from the fact that you need to acknowledge your emotions. Feeling overwhelmed, frustrated, or even resentful at times does not mean you love your baby any less. Talking openly about these feelings, whether with a partner, friend, or therapist, can be liberating.

Create a Support System

Motherhood is not a solo journey. It requires a supportive network of people who can offer emotional encouragement and practical assistance. Whether it is a partner, family members, friends, or even postpartum support groups, keep them close. Speak up, even shout out, for help. Ask for assistance with household chores, babysitting, or simply a listening ear.

Establish a Loose Routine

Do not try to establish a strict routine from day 1—It is impractical. Instead, embrace flexibility during the first few months. Adapt to both your baby’s needs and your own. A loose routine can help you make sense of how things are working. Remember to eat, relax, and take moments to catch your breath. These small steps can help you feel more grounded.

Incorporate Self-Care

Do not equate self-care with being selfish. It is necessary. Take small steps to prioritize yourself, whether it’s enjoying a hot shower, going for a short walk, or spending a few quiet moments journaling. Regular exercise, even if it’s just 15 minutes a day, can also help release endorphins and improve your mood.

Seek Professional Help

Professional help is life-changing. If feelings of sadness, anxiety, or overwhelm persist, don’t hesitate to reach out to professionals. Therapists specializing in postpartum mental health can help you based on your specific needs.

Giving In To Societal Pressure Is The Worst Mistake

“What will people think or say?” We have heard this ever too often. One of the biggest barriers to seeking help is the stigma surrounding postpartum mental health. The unrealistic expectations on mothers to be sacrificial avatars is something we should leave behind. You shouldn’t feel ashamed or inadequate when you’re struggling. We will say this as many times as necessary: challenge the typecasted narratives. 

It Is Okay To Be Not Okay

Find balance, even with a mewling newborn on your arms, and work toward finding your inner peace. Postpartum mental wellness is not at all about perfection. It is about taking a deep breath and acknowledging that you have been through something huge. With your mental health under check, you not only strengthen yourself but also create a loving, nurturing environment for your baby to thrive. It is okay to be not okay.

In a way, new mothers are also newly born and need attention. They may experience various mental health issues but feel unable to speak out for fear of being judged. Help them cope, and if you are a mother yourself, know that you are not alone.